cheating or not?

Category: Let's talk

Post 1 by Izzito (This site is so "educational") on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 11:35:02

So i was watching Mory. And on one of the pools they had the question was if you are in a relationship and you talk to someone online is that cheating or not?
so I wanna know what u guys think about it

Post 2 by nikos (English words from a Greek thinking brain) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 13:14:06

It deppends what you talk about. If you talk about music, politicks, nature and general things like that it's not cheeting. But if two people have siber sex or phone sex with somebody else if they already have a partner i think it is cheeting.
But i would say that. It's not cheeting if you can tell to your partner about the other person and what you talk about. If they are ok with it is not cheeting. The cheeting starts when people start hiding the fact that they speak with somebody else. That's how i see it.

Post 3 by Ukulele<3 (Try me... You know you want to.) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 14:27:52

*agrees with Nikos!* It's all about what you do/say while talking to them. Their is flirting but if you cross that line, you are cheating in my oppinion.

Michelle

Post 4 by shea (number one pulse checking chicky) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 15:12:08

i don't really have much to add to this. just talking, in my opinion isn't cheating. it's what your talking about that is! it may not be cheating, but it's still wrong to um, say talk sex or yeah, take friendship a bit to far!

shea

Post 5 by Rune Knight (Ancient Demon - Darkness will always conquer Light!) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 15:14:47

Agrees with Nikos

Post 6 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 17:00:37

agree with everyone.

Post 7 by Lupinsgirl (I can't call it a day til I enter the zone BBS) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 17:06:42

If your just talking to someone online that's just fine, it's when your flerting, weather in jest or not then you start crosing lines if you ask me. And if your BF or GF can't take the fact you talk to other boys or girls online and is always at you about what you talk about, then I think that relaytionship has some problems that should be looked into.

Post 8 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 18:47:03

agree with Nikos

Post 9 by Shadow_Cat (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 18:50:08

I agree with everyone here. What kind of talking are we referring to? If it's all suggestive and flirty, then yeah, I think its cheating in heart, even if you never act physically. If you make just a friend, not a big deal. Online is sometimes easier to get into trouble, because people convince themselves its harmless, since they're not acting on it physically, but I think it's still selfish.

Post 10 by Heavy Metal Girl 85 (Zone BBS is my Life) on Friday, 27-Apr-2007 21:15:42

depends on what you're talking about, if you're talking about having phone sex, or asking for phone sex or telling each other what you'd doo to them if you were going out with them, then yes that's cheating, but if you're just talking about things that aren't of that nature then no that's totally fine, this is just my opinion,I know I could have just summed this up by saying i agree with the rest of the posters, but I just felt like stating my opinion. and I'm stating this as if the two people were already in a relationship with someone else and not that person they were talking to.

Post 11 by The Giggling Cowboy (Veteran Zoner) on Thursday, 03-May-2007 15:00:21

Why is flirting cheating? If I compliment a girl and say she has a nice voice on her audio profile, or something like that, how is that cheating? I guess I don't understand. I mean, I get the sex part, but saying "Hey, you sound cute...blah blah blah" doesn't seem like cheating to me. Guess I'm weird that way. LOL!

Post 12 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Thursday, 03-May-2007 15:11:35

I don't think just light flirting or telling someone they sound cute is cheating. But actual cyber sex or phone sex is cheating in my opinion. If you are in the mood for sex, and you can't turn to your partner for that, then there is something wrong in your relationship. If you have a very open relationship where you both agree to say it's okay for the other person to do that kind of stuf, then I guess it's okay, but frankly, when I'm involved with someone I want more of a commitment and don't want to be told it's okay if I want to have phone sex with someone else. But when I'm not involved in a relationship, then anything goes.

Post 13 by The Giggling Cowboy (Veteran Zoner) on Thursday, 03-May-2007 15:22:38

Here here! I totally agree!

Post 14 by Daenerys Targaryen (Enjoying Life) on Friday, 29-May-2009 19:08:28

Its not talking, but what you are talking about...